Tag: discipline

  • Five strategies I have used to curtail my spending

    Five strategies I have used to curtail my spending

    Whenever I think about personal finances, money management and wealth creation, of all the tips and tricks that are usually shared, most boil down to a single principle: curtailing spending.

    It would seem to be the hardest thing to do especially with the ease that modern life brings spending literally to our fingertips and wallets. Everything is available online or for delivery as instant gratification is the goal and gift.

    Also, because spending has become so ephemeral, there is a high level of disassociation as we are not usually seeing the money leave our hands. It’s all virtual, so for many people ignorance is bliss when it comes to certain spending habits, especially with credit and debit cards.

    We have all adopted capitalist and consumerist habits which have assisted with the increase in consumer spending as the main driver of our economies, especially discretionary spending.

    So how do you cope and ensure that you meet your goals around money?

    Today I’m going to share some of my own strategies to curtail both my discretionary and non-discretionary spending.

    Discipline is Key

    It may seem obvious but at the heart of all efforts to curtail spending is a willingness to be disciplined and adhere to whatever measures of self-control you put in place. Impulse has a way of completely redirecting our intentions and derailing our plans.

    Sometimes, the starkest way to maintain discipline is by reducing options as well as identifying triggers that may cause you to make rash spending decisions. When it comes to identifying triggers, I’ve gotten very good at recognizing the sweet spot that gets me to either make rash buying decisions or even consider buying something I never wanted previously. A big trigger for me is idleness but another I can admit to is envy and the need to either always grab an incredible deal or to get an item I want because I saw someone with something similar. From my own experience, we make many of our buying decisions based on endorsements from those closest to us.

    One way I’ve sought to fix this is by unfollowing Fat Kid Deals on Twitter  as a start because while it often has incredible deals, it is a major trigger for my impulse buying. Imagine seeing constant deals in your timeline. It’s much better for me to check out the account whenever I actually need something, just in case but it has proven unhelpful constantly exposing myself to a known trigger.

    Shop with your eyes and not your wallet

    We do this in real life all the time so you think it would be easy and straight forward but I have learned to shop with my eyes even with online sales and listicles featuring products. Sometimes looking is enough. My strategy to control my impulse in this regard is to create wish lists and air mark potential buy dates for certain items. Sometimes designating an item to ‘buy later’ as opposed to a ‘buy now’ is all it takes to save some money and prevent unnecessary spending.

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    Take breaks from online shopping as needed

    Over the past 3 years I have made lent, my season of taking a break from online shopping. It’s a deliberate effort to truly curtail the amount of money I spend with online retailers because a convenient as it may seem, cumulatively, it adds up over time.

    Instead, it allows me to explore local alternatives that for the most part I didn’t know existed because I seldom attempt to shop for certain things physically. You can either get the exact same item locally or something even better that is made here. Sometimes it’s good to go to a mall or store and check out what’s available. And while the prices might seem higher compared to the sticker prices we see online, when you factor in shipping and weight costs, it’s practically the same.

    Sometimes the reflex to just source a product online is so easy and compelling we forget that most things can be gotten locally. Case in point, I recently broke my reading glasses and needed a new pair. The original was purchased online but due to my ongoing online buying pause, I decided to do a quick search online and was able to source a 3-pack at Pricesmart at a great price, sans the shipping cost.

    Compare prices everywhere!

    Price comparison shopping is one of the most basic exercises we do when trying to save money on our spending. Looking for the best price on any item or service should therefore come naturally, and it’s much easier than you think. Most people may have a favourite place to shop, but it’s helpful if that place is already giving you discounts and the best deal, when compared to a competitor. It’s much easier to do it online because everything is laid out before you, but there’s no shame in visiting different supermarkets for example, to see how the other folks live and the prices they experience.  You would be surprised by the mark up in price between two almost neighbouring supermarkets. And while the shopping experience may be different, don’t pay extra for the basics due to ambiance.

    Cancel those subscriptions you don’t use

    I can bet if you check the monthly charges to your credit card or even things you have setup up on your debit cards, you will find that some of the services, you don’t actually use or need as much of. You would be surprised sometimes what subscriptions you have lurking around, that gets charged to you maybe once a year. For example, some years ago I had done a subscription to amazon newsstand to receive National Geographic Magazine because I love reading the articles and full issue. However over time I discovered I could never keep up, and while the subscription renewed each year, in stealth, I was not interacting with or consuming the content.

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    So after going through all my subscriptions on the platform I decided to remove it and save myself from that renewal for this year. It is always a good idea to select a reminder preference for all renewable services to ensure that you have a prompt before they are up for renewal.

    What are some of your tried and true ways to curtail your spending? Tell me in the comments.

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    Kevin

  • My 2022 Reading List: For the Joy of Reading

    My 2022 Reading List: For the Joy of Reading

    In 2019, what I will call the before times, I was very hopeful and aspirational and I put together a list of must read books for that year . On the surface, the list looked and sounded good.  I anticipated it would’ve been even easier to get done and complete the reading.

    Unfortunately, it didn’t turn out that way and I didn’t complete the reading list. And while I was able to read some additional titles, I just never felt right about not finishing those books. This year I am creating another list, which in addition to my book club selections should make for a rounded reading curriculum.

    This time, I’ve decided to be more direct with my choices and I’ll be choosing books that I am not only eager to read but also following my tried and tested method to ensure that I keep my reading habit, consistent: a mix of genres and formats. In addition, I am reading books I already own. This I hope will keep me interested, motivated and most importantly, reading even when I probably feel like I should be doing anything but. And I’m inviting you to read along with me for the entire year!!

    As a side bar, I do hope you love my book selections and will be inspired enough to choose a fave or two from the list. Some of the links below are affiliate links. This means that, at zero cost to you, I will earn an affiliate commission if you click through the link and finalize a purchase.

    January 

    My Sister the Serial Killer by Oyinkan Braithwaite

    I love reading books based in Modern Africa. The colourful and vibrant cultures of the continent can’t help but seep through the pages of books set in Nigeria, Ghana or beyond. This is a book club selection that I felt was serendipitous because I remember reading a preview of this book when it was first released. So I’m looking forward to diving in. This is the only book on my list that I don’t own and will instead be borrowing. Get your copy here.

    February 

    King Leopold’s Ghost by Adam Hochschild

    I had previously planned to read this book in 2019 but never worked up the courage to start it, so I intend to make this my February read and truly get into this horrific retelling of the exploits of the King of Belgium in Africa. Get your copy here .

    March 

    Discerner of Hearts by Olive Senior

    Olive Senior is one of my ALL-TIME favourite Jamaican authors. Her storytelling reminds me of early mornings in the country, with an enamel cup of mint tea with a lot of sugar. The way she captures experiences, relationships and moments is exquisite. Get your copy here.

    April 

    Feeding the Soul (Because It’s My Business) by Tabitha Brown

    I’ve been following Tabitha Brown ever since she debuted on Tik tok in 2020 and I’ve been a fan throughout her rise. I’m looking forward to  reading more about her journey and how she’s been able to build her life, so deliberately while exercising so much faith and patience. Get your copy here.

    May

    The Intuitionist by Colson Whitehead

    Ever since I read The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead, I’ve wanted to read something else he’s done. The great thing about his work is that he jumps across multiple genres, which for me, because you never know what to expect. One thing that remains certain, his talent is unmatched. Get your copy here .

    June 

    Motherland by Wandeka Gayle

    I purchased this short story collection by Wandeka Gayle based solely on the fact that we went to college together years ago and I have been privy to her journey for years. Seeing this collection actualized was a joy to behold and I cannot wait to dive in. I should also mention that June is #ReadCaribbeanMonth so wanted to ensure that a book by Caribbean writer was the focus. Get your copy here.

    July

    Robopocalypse: A Novel by Daniel H. Wilson

    I’m a fan of apocalyptic stories and I’ve the work of some of the best, so I admit the title caught me but what made this even better, is the fact that Stephen King himself described this book as “Terrific page-turning fun.” That’s an endorsement I can live with. Get your copy here .

    August

    Psyche by H.G. de Lisser

    For the uninitiated, H.G. de Lisser was a Jamaican journalist and author who died in 1944. He left a number of novels and forever immortalized the tale of Annie Palmer, that we have turned into Jamaican folklore, with his book, The White Witch of Rose Hall.

    I’m not sure his books are still in circulation because sadly, they never made them into the school curriculum across the Caribbean (or if they did, they are no longer used). I got my copy of Psyche at Bookland in New Kingston.

    September 

    The Pesthouse by Jim Crace

    I was on a book haul a few years ago and this book literally called to me and based solely on the description of the story, I decided that I will give it a try. Hoping for the best! Get your copy here.

    October

    Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell

    Any book by Malcolm Gladwell is an easy decision for me and I was intrigued by the premise of this title specifically because I am an introvert who finds it a bit difficult to let strangers in. I’m looking forward to the insights. Get your copy here.

    November Book

    11/22/63 by Stephen King

    There’s a funny story about this book. It was released in 2011 and I pre-ordered a hard cover copy and have owned it ever since but for the life of me, I never got around to reading it. I have read many Stephen King books over the years, but this one has been sitting, until now. Also, I decided to make it the November read because of the title. Get your copy here.

    December Book

    Barracoon: The Story of the Last “Black Cargo” by Zora Neale Hurston

    With a year filled with so many varied stories, I felt it was apt to read the account of the life of the last slave shipped to the USA. I had mentally planned to purchase this book some years ago and then it was gifted to me by surprise, so I know I have to read it. Get your copy here.

    Of course, there will be other books in between, some are bonus titles that I need to complete and others that might just pop up. I am bravely making allocation for those and also inviting you all to join me on this journey. Here’s hoping you discover titles that you are interested in reading as well.

    What are some of the books you’re planning to read this year?

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  • Figuring out Finances – Part 1

    Figuring out Finances – Part 1

    I have had a very complicated relationship with money my entire life. As an adult that relationship has gone through 3 stages – Awareness, Humility and Strategic.

    I became aware of the power of money as a child when I realized that some of us had more than others and could therefore do more. As I grew up this idea of the haves and the ‘have nots’ just became clearer. When I came of age and started earning, I was immediately thrust into debt with my student loans and had to learn pretty early how to weigh financial commitments with everything else.

    The humility came when I realized the powerful hold debt can have on us mentally, especially when we’re overwhelmed by it. It is quite easy to fall into debt and sometimes the reasons for doing so are frivolous. It is quite easy to fall into debt and sometimes the reasons for doing so are frivolous.

    I’ve learnt to be more strategic with not just how I spend and prioritize money, but also with how I deal with debt. Debt and how to deal with it has seemingly become a defining part of my adulthood as well.

    Along the way, I’ve learned some valuable lessons and figured out some good ways to simply make my financial journey, better and I’m going to share some with you.
    Disclaimer: I am NOT a financial advisor, not even close. In addition, I’m sure you may’ve have read some of these tips somewhere else, however, whatever I have added here is based on my own tried and tested experience.

    Find Novel Ways to Save Money

    Many years ago, a friend of mine told me that he doesn’t re-spend coins – Jamaican 5, 10 and 20 dollars. Up until that point, I adopted a similar principle but my coin denominations were much lower – Jamaican $1, 10 and 25 cent coins. After that revelation I started doing the same with my larger coins and for a time, I would cash up to $10,000 worth of coins at the end of the year.

    A recent tweet gave me pause and an opportunity to once again, level up.

    Imani is saving $50 dollar bills. So I’ve already started and I’ll go as far as it takes me. These interesting personal challenges allow us to not only test our resolve to stick to something that’s good for us, but help us to automatically save money. I’m not saying this is for everyone. But if you can manage to keep those $50 bills to yourself, do it and see the lump sum you’ll have at the end of the year.

    Always shop around for lower interest rates on loans

    Sounds easy and it is.

    If you are in a borrowing relationship with a financial institution, always check around for better rates – so whether you have a credit card, auto loan, personal loan – don’t neglect this. In fact, you may have loan options underneath your nose, via your employer, through loan sales or special product offers from financial companies. The goal is always to seek lower rates if you borrow.

    Don’t fear credit cards

    They are not your enemies.

    I jumped into a credit card over a decade ago and I’ve never looked back. I remember when I had just applied I was told that I was making a mistake by getting one. But looking back I am thankful that I learned the hard lessons about using this tool early, so that now, I am able to make more calculated decisions about it. What’s even more fantastic now is the variety of cards that are available.

    A while back I transitioned from having just a simple credit card, to having one that gave me a benefit. No longer would my debt just be debt, I would be rewarded for it as well! LOL. Even better, my interest rate went down.

    But in all seriousness, if you want to get a credit card, plan to take the risks with it that you can afford and read all the fine print. Also, if your provider offers, always take the credit card insurance. You only pay insurance on what you owe.

    Know your cut off dates, payment and billing dates, Annual Percentage Rate (APR), annual fees, if any and all conditions surrounding the use of your card.

    Finally, don’t ever let a credit card provider fool you into taking a credit card with a higher interest rate, regardless of the ‘benefits’ or lack of annual fees.

    They may tell you this “The interest rate doesn’t matter if you pay it off every month” but suppose you choose not to pay it off at the end of a month? Wouldn’t you rather be charged the lowest possible interest rate than a higher one? Think about it.

    Save in foreign currency

    This is just something that has worked for me depending on the type of account I’m using, for a number of reasons:

    Firstly, having a foreign currency account, specifically a US$ product, has proven beneficial because with diligent saving, I always have foreign currency on hand when I need it for travel or particular expenses.

    For medium or long term accounts, especially fixed deposit type products, I have found that over time, it’s better to save in a foreign currency because I get better value on my saving. This is even better if the interest rate isn’t that attractive, you’re able to add value to your savings based on fluctuations in the currency trading markets.

    Buy in Bulk

    I live by a simple rule: Never run out of toilet paper at home! I don’t care where you choose to buy it in bulk, just do it. Buy a year’s supply or 6 months supply just always have toilet paper stocked up.

    But this is about more than just toilet paper. I just find it so much more convenient and cost effective to get certain supplies in bulk instead of making purchases month to month. My suggestion on approaching this is to buy basic items in bulk and include more products as you continue to manage your usage. It saves you money and works out in the end.

    There are some more ideas that I will share in my next update, but until then, I hope these are helpful.

    Be inspired, Be informed, Be Glorious!

    Kevin

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  • Spare the Rod… and Machete

    Spare the Rod… and Machete

    After watching that video of the partly naked mother, viciously beating her daughter with a machete on Sunday, (reported on here) I was part amused and mostly dismayed.

    I was amused because the dang dog reminded me of so many people, who are always making an effort to be in the middle of everything, and then get hurt.

    But I was dismayed because what I saw, was a family at its lowest point and our Jamaican women, once again set up for ridicule.

    I took my feelings to Facebook and penned this:

    The video of the mother beating a girl who I assumed to be her daughter is distressing. And most of us will view it with outrage. That is appropriate, but I am distressed about what happened, not because I’m upset that a woman was beating her daughter with a machete. But by the fact that a mother even thought it an option to do that in the first place. 

    A few years ago I would be blindly angry at the mother for what she did. But now, while I share my disgust with how she sought to discipline this girl, I also want to sit and have a talk with her. I really want to know what’s going on in her life.  What cut has she received so deep, that has caused her to walk away from her dignity in such a way? As for the dog… some of us can all learn a lesson from what happened to him/her.

    I’ve seen the outrage, heard many of the jokes and for a quick minute decided that I didn’t want to touch on this topic any further, until now.

    It’s Personal

    I, like many other Jamaicans, was beaten by a parent while growing up, as a form of discipline.

    No, I will never accept that beating me was justified, or the right way to discipline a child. There was no other option presented, as it was the only way I was disciplined.

    Personally, I feel it did more harm than good, but that’s another conversation all together.

    I have seen some of the commentary on this matter and I’m still trying to figure out what people are more upset about… the beating itself or the fact that it was done with a machete?

    I’m willing to commiserate with the mother, not because I believe she deserves pity for her stress, but because I recognise that society places the responsibility for disciplining her child squarely on her shoulders.

    Our current issue is that she ‘overdid it’ in many of our eyes. The fact is, some serious injury could’ve been caused to her daughter because of what she was doing.

    For the Culture

    Unlike some folks, nostalgia means nil to me, in this zero sum game of corporal punishment that is somehow glorified as a panacea for discipline, in seemingly every aspect of Jamaican life.

    Physically violence is a THING with our people.

    I find the outrage at this video alarming as well, as there is another popular video which has made the rounds on social media, showing what appeared to be a ‘neighbour’ disciplining the child of another neighbour.

    Similar to the current video in question, this was also in a ‘Big Yaad’ setting, because of course, putting working class people on ‘blast’ is never out of style.

    In that instance, she used her hands, to deliver some choice blows to the girl who protested violently.

    Kum-Ba-Yah?

    As was said here, Ms Dyer should be resocialised, not criminalised.

    She committed a crime and the consequences of that offence should be corrective but also something that helps us, as a community to be better.

    Her daughter too, also needs assistance. Not to learn to be a ‘good girl’ but to understand that that level of abuse is not normal and is not something she should expect from anyone, ever.

    Sadly, our culture insists that ‘two lick neva hurt nobody’. Therefore, displays like that witnessed Sunday, will continue to be tolerated and argued about. Less so, if a machete is not in play.

    Victim blaming will be the mainstay… ‘Di likkle girl muss bad.’

    I would wax philosophical and say that this is a teachable moment, and for some it will be, but I fear that culture will do what it often does, carry on.

    But while you’re at it, do us all a favour and report incidents of child abuse that you witness and know places a child in danger HERE. It really shouldn’t take several months and public outcry.

    Leave a comment and let me know how this whole thing makes you feel.

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    Be inspired, Be informed, Be Glorious!

    Kevin